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Blue · Post by **Blue** » Wed Aug 31, 11 7:29 pm

Just had the week from hell, my Dad died last Monday suddenly and unexpectedly. My Mum is 85 and not in the best of health, Dad pretty much had to do everything for her. I have very little family and none are local, so everything will be be down to me. The upshot is, between going to work and providing care, I will have very little time for anything else.
I will still try and do some gearbox work and a few odds and sods so don't be afraid to ask. I don't mess people about, so If I can do something in a reasonable time frame I will say yes, if I know I can't I'll have to decline. I'll know better in a few weeks time how things are going to pan out long term. It's all a bit of a bugger, but my Mum's welfare is my number one priority from now on.

RoelB · Post by **RoelB** » Wed Aug 31, 11 8:09 pm

Sorry to hear about your dad Blue, best of luck with sorting things out.

Minty · Post by **Minty** » Wed Aug 31, 11 8:14 pm

Sorry to hear of the loss of your dad blue,can only imagine what your going through ,your mum will need your help more than ever now,best wishes at this difficult time.
Terry

andyrob · Post by **andyrob** » Wed Aug 31, 11 8:21 pm

Sorry to hear the bad news

Guy · Post by **Guy** » Wed Aug 31, 11 8:24 pm

So sorry to about your loss John .

Dart Vader · Post by **Dart Vader** » Wed Aug 31, 11 8:27 pm

Sorry to hear that mate, hope things sort themselves out

charger01 · Post by **charger01** » Wed Aug 31, 11 8:44 pm

Very sorry to hear about your Dad John. Family should always come first.
Thoughts are with you.

Adrian Worman · Post by **Adrian Worman** » Wed Aug 31, 11 9:47 pm

Sorry to hear that mate, lost me pappy only a little while back and know what you are going thru
Life is good and bad, just seems a little one sided to you now I bet.

Dave-R · Post by **Dave-R** » Wed Aug 31, 11 10:04 pm

So many of us have or have to go through the same thing but that does not make it any easier. Our thoughts are with you John.
Dave and Diana.

db · Post by db » Wed Aug 31, 11 10:20 pm

My girlfriend's going through a very similar situation Blue, all the best mate i know how difficult times like this can be

Wolfman · Post by **Wolfman** » Wed Aug 31, 11 10:29 pm

So sorry to hear about your loss, been there myself, infact it is a year ago this weekend that I lost mine. COuld not have imagined the problems it caused, but with the support of my wife I have slowly been sorting things out. My Dad also did everything as far as running the house is concerned (up to the last couple of years that he was around then my wife and I had to do it all) so have had to really wet nurse my mum....As far as you not being up to helping people is concerned, the ones that matter will under stand... Just take your time and you will get there little by little. You may even end up with some spare time for yourself, altho I have to be honest I am not there yet!

John · Post by **John** » Wed Aug 31, 11 10:42 pm

Condolences bud

Post by **TyreFryer** » Wed Aug 31, 11 10:54 pm

Very sorry to hear about what you're currently going through John. Are you getting help with caring for your Mum from the local authorities?

steveo · Post by **steveo** » Wed Aug 31, 11 11:14 pm

sorry to hear about you Dad !! John

Anonymous · Post by **Anonymous** » Wed Aug 31, 11 11:18 pm

Thinking of you blue just been through the same with Wendy's mum and it is tough and frustrating.
If you need anything doing just ring and will be there for you.